Ok, no to do list. The task at hand is to adjust my perspective. Instead of:

“I don’t have to do dishes because I’ve worked all day.” How about?

“I’ll do dishes because my husband lovingly made dinner.”

Hmm… this might not be fun… discovering how selfish I have been. Ooh! Ooh! Here’s another one:

“I don’t need to call dad because he never calls me.”

*feels the sting*

My selfish choices to not do the dishes or call dad effects how they feel about me, although indirectly and somewhat subliminally.

Doh! Is being concerned with and wanting to change how people feel about me selfish? Crap. There really isn’t a way around selfishness. Wanting to make personal change is selfish. We do it because we want to feel better about ourselves. That is selfish. But this type of selfishness really isn’t true to the definition of the word. Selfish people are exclusively concerned for their own well being, regardless of how it effects others.

Whew! I’m ok with this.

So we’ll be starting with the simple stuff, like doing dishes and calling dad.

Yep, that’s what now.